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1: Introduction
2: Conceal your Intentions
Revealing your intentions all the time will not increase
your power because everyone knows what to expect from you. It is human to
admire those who are more mysterious. In the book, the advise is to hide
your intentions not by closing up because it might seem suspicious but buy
constantly talking about your fake goals and desires. It is very hard for
people to see that through because humans can only focus on one thing at a
time. If you would constantly doubt if people would lie about their goals and
what they want, it would be very exhausting.
For example, Sam Geezil was planning on selling his
warehouse business to Joseph. With a few other businessman and an old boxer,
they sat in the train together to the destination. On the way to the warehouse,
Joseph was asking about the boxer because he was also into boxing. Joseph was
convinced that his boxer was stronger than Sam’s and they came into a
discussion. After a while, they decided to do a boxing match between them with
a prize for the winner of €35 000 that was put into a locker. When the match
started, Joseph’s boxer hit the old boxer so hard that he was dead. Joseph
instantly ran away because he wouldn’t risk having a death on his conscience
for €35 000. But the old boxer actually wasn’t dead. He had a bleeding chicken
ball in his mouth so it seemed like he was dead. Sam then put the money in his
pockets and they never went to the warehouse. This was Sam’s plan all along. He
gave the impression to Joseph that he was intending on selling the warehouse,
but the boxing match was his plan. Because he could hide his intentions,
Joseph never doubted that Sam would cheat in the boxing match because he
couldn’t prepare it.
3: Always say less than necessary
I’ll start this law with an example that show how saying
more can lead to less power. There was a war hero in Rome that was on the
electoral list. When he first showed up, he showed his scars that he got during
the war and everyone was impressed by him. Later he came again to tell about his
opinions on his world perspective. It was then that the people understood that
there was nothing special about him and that he complained about everything
that a normal citizen was complaining about. Everyone hated him and as he talked
more and more, people even protested on getting him banished from the country.
After he was banished, the Romans organized the biggest party they have ever
had. This story clearly shows that saying less, will lead to more power. If he
had shut his mouth, the chances of succeeding were much higher.
Robert Green, the author, phrased this phenome very well in
his book: “When you say less, you appear greater and more powerful than you
are because they don’t know what you are thinking.” and “Powerful people
impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you
are to say something foolish”. Also, the same argument can be cited from
concealing your intentions: It is human to admire those who are more mysterious.
When you say less and thus not say everything you think, you will have control
over people because they are afraid of the unknown. Louis XIV for example was a
man of very few words. When there was a decision to be made about the execution
of someone in 2 weeks, he answered with: “We’ll see”.
4: Win through Your Actions, Never Through Argument
Once upon a time, there a sculptor who had messed up a
statue. Michelangelo was ordered to still make something out of it. After he
finished the statue, he showed it to his master who didn’t like the nose. It
was too big. Michelangelo didn’t say anything, instead he guided his master to
a different place where he had another perspective. From this perspective, the
nose seemed better and he was satisfied with the statue.
Michelangelo convinced his master not through words, but
through action. This method is far more effective than discussing because
your opponent will not get defensive because you are attacking his opinion, and
are therefore more open for persuasion.
5: Conclusion
The most important thing I want you to remember is that saying less to conceal your intentions is one of the most powerful weapons in the game of power because mysteriousness and unpredictability are 2 characteristics that is admired by most people. But it is essential to apply this information sensibly and morally, bearing in mind that authority must be exercised with honour and deference to others.
6: Your Next Steps
1. Embrace Strategic Communication: Practice
concealing your intentions in professional conversations by subtly steering
discussions toward alternative topics or emphasizing false goals and desires.
By mastering the art of strategic communication, you can maintain an air of
mystery and gain a competitive edge in negotiations, interviews, or
interpersonal interactions.
2. Harness the Power of Silence: Take a moment to
reflect on how you communicate and challenge yourself to say less than
necessary in your conversations. By allowing pauses, listening attentively, and
avoiding unnecessary elaboration, you can create an air of authority, make
others hang onto your words, and increase your influence.
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