1: Introduction Can you think of an instance when someone deeply harmed you? This can be a friend who broke your trust, a loved one who disappointed you, or a co-worker who undercut your efforts. In these situations, forgiveness may appear to be an impossible task. Have you ever thought about the transformational power of forgiveness? In this blog post, you will learn about the powerful impact forgiveness can have on your live, as well as the great freedom and inner peace it provides. 2: What is Forgiveness Forgiveness is often seen as an act of weakness. However, this is a skill that only the strongest and most mature people possess. Forgiveness can liberate you from a constant anger towards a person and can cure relationships. As Buddha once said: “ Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned .”. You can better understand this quote with an example: Imagine your best friend broke your trust by t...
1: Introduction
2: Sitting on the same side of the table
Giving and receiving feedback is not always easy. It requires mutual understanding and consideration of the situation at hand. To have a constructive conversation when giving feedback, it is important that both parties sit on the same side of the table. This can be taken literally, as it gives the feedback recipient the impression that you are there to help rather than criticize. Effective feedback should be a two-way street. While it may seem that the feedback provider is solely responsible for giving feedback, it is crucial to have a conversation that goes both ways so that the feedback recipient's thoughts and feelings can also be considered.
Constructive feedback can only be given when both sides are on the same side of the table as it means that the feedback receiver will actually take action based on that feedback. If you are only giving feedback and don’t allow the receiver to give input on the feedback provided, how will you know that he will take action based on your feedback? By not feeling heard, the chance is much bigger that he will not take action.
3: Criteria for giving feedback
In this paragraph, I will give the most important criteria you need before giving feedback. This is crucial because it will have a big impact on how the feedback receiver will receive your feedback.
1. Emotionally stable: The most important criteria is that you are emotionally stable. Most important is that you don’t feel angry or irritated about the receiver’s behaviour. If you are, you will not be able to give constructive feedback as you will most likely not acknowledge the other’s thoughts and feelings. If you feel angry but have a feedback session right now, a simple but effective method to become more emotionally stable is to breath 3 times in and out and think “He is also a human being that can make mistakes.”
2: Setting the Tone: The tone of the feedback conversation can greatly affect how the recipient receives and responds to the feedback. It is important to set a positive and respectful tone, emphasizing your desire to help the recipient improve rather than simply pointing out flaws or mistakes. This can easily be done by starting the conversation with interest in the other person’s life by saying “How was your day?”. This only takes 30 seconds of the conversation but will greatly improve the feedback receiver’s willingness to receive feedback.
3: Understanding the Recipient's Perspective: To provide effective feedback, it is important to understand the recipient's perspective and be open to their feedback as well. This can help to create a more collaborative feedback process and foster a sense of mutual respect and trust.
4: The art of getting feedback
Taking and implementing feedback is an essential part of personal and professional growth. To do this effectively, it's important to approach feedback with an open mind and a willingness to learn. This means being receptive to constructive criticism, actively listening to feedback, and avoiding becoming defensive or dismissive.
To make the most of feedback, it's helpful to understand the specific behaviours or actions being addressed. Ask for clarification or examples if needed, and take notes to ensure that you have a clear understanding of the feedback. Then, take some time to reflect on the feedback and consider how you can use it to improve your performance. This may involve setting specific goals or action steps, seeking additional resources or training, or simply practicing new habits or behaviours
Following up with the feedback provider is also crucial to implementing feedback effectively. This not only reinforces the feedback, but also demonstrates your commitment to making positive changes. Communicate your progress and any challenges you may be facing, and be open to further feedback or guidance.
5: Conclusion
The most important thing I want you to remember is that in order to receive feedback, it's vital to be willing to learn by avoiding a defensive stance in a conversation. By sitting on the same side of the table, understanding criteria for giving feedback, and approaching feedback with an open mind, we can create constructive conversations that promote growth and progress. Remember to set a positive and respectful tone, be receptive to constructive criticism, and take the time to reflect on the feedback provided. With these tips, you can develop the art of giving and receiving feedback and become a more effective communicator in all areas of your life.
6: Your next steps
1: Help in growth: The next time before you give or get feedback, take a deep breath and remind yourself that feedback is meant to help you grow and improve, rather than criticize you.
2: Start with a positive tone: The next time you give feedback, try starting the conversation with a positive and respectful tone by asking how their day went. Ask the recipient how their day was before diving into the feedback. This will create a more comfortable and collaborative environment for both parties. (3 minutes)
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